Welcome to my very first blog post! I’m so excited to launch my website and share my personal experiences with you. Today, I want to talk about the importance of setting healthy boundaries and overcoming insecurity, inspired by some recent events that really opened my eyes.
Recently, I was invited to help a business where I had some useful skills. Since I had the time and energy, I thought, "Why not?" However, I ignored my gut feeling to set clear boundaries from the start because I really wanted the experience to go well. I was also stepping into something new and unfamiliar, feeling like I needed to prove myself to both the other person and myself.
As time went on, I began to realize that the person I was helping had initially been hiding their own insecurities and might have only been interested in using my skills, likely without intending to pay me. By then, I had already ignored too many warning signs. I convinced myself that everything was fine and that if I just did a good job, things would work out. I thought, "Karma will take care of it—I’ll get back what I put into it!"
But my guides had different plans. They started putting obstacles in my way, like tech issues and Wi-Fi problems, that made it hard for me to keep helping. During meditation, I felt guided to write a contract, which came together easily. Still, I was hesitant to set a boundary because I feared being rejected.
By the end of a six-day retreat at this business, I had already done a lot of work—like taking inventory, writing descriptions, and photographing products—before I finally understood what would be expected of me and how I needed to set a clear boundary. Unfortunately, by the time I presented a contract for payment, the business owner reacted poorly, and we couldn’t continue working together. They refused to sign the agreement, and I lost trust in them after everything I had seen over the six days I spent helping them.
This experience has been a powerful lesson in the importance of trusting my intuition and establishing boundaries right from the start.
Deception is often revealed through the projections of the deceiver’s own insecurities. Spending too much time ignoring these projections can lead to deeper pain than what the universe initially intended as a hard lesson. Recognizing and addressing these projections sooner can help avoid more significant hurt and guide you toward a healthier path. While we may not control the energies that people project at us, we always have control over how we respond.
In my journey, I’ve learned that when insecurities are projected, it’s a breach of boundaries, and it’s crucial to step back, reflect on the situation, and make necessary adjustments. If you’re trying to mend a relationship where boundaries were previously nonexistent, setting new boundaries can be particularly challenging. You may encounter resistance, and the response to these changes can often be negative. It's essential to be prepared for this and to accept that you have no control over how others will react. Sometimes, letting go might be necessary if the other person responds poorly, despite your best efforts to remain centered in love.
Setting boundaries from the beginning of a new relationship is crucial. It establishes clear expectations and helps prevent misunderstandings. Starting with clear boundaries ensures that both parties understand each other’s limits from the outset, fostering healthier and more respectful interactions.
Effective communication is key. I’ve learned that addressing issues directly and promptly is crucial; delaying important conversations only prolongs discomfort. Trusting my intuition when setting boundaries has helped me navigate situations more effectively and avoid repeating past mistakes.
As I continue to grow and learn from my experiences, I now understand the importance of setting better boundaries before forming deep connections. This process starts with honoring my own energy and listening to my inner voice. Ignoring my intuition is a form of self-betrayal that only leads to further complications.
In recognizing our collective challenges and the process of letting go, it's important to acknowledge and process our emotions. Bitterness can block the flow of love and healing. My heartfelt wish is for everyone to find the strength to engage in inner work, confront their pain, and transform it into healing power. Embracing this journey helps us navigate life's ups and downs more effectively.
I believe that each of us is a unique expression of the divine, embodying both the divine feminine and divine masculine. Through the divine feminine, we connect with each other on a deep level, gaining insight, knowledge, and awareness. Through the divine masculine, we express our unique attributes and take action. Listening is key for the divine feminine to express her wisdom, even though her voice has often been suppressed out of fear. She represents the silence and profound knowledge that emerges from true listening.
Responding to incoming energies with love and grace is vital. What doesn’t bring peace, we bless and release. Remember, it’s okay not to be okay, but everything will eventually be alright. Prioritize yourself, develop self-awareness, and recognize the positive impact of your thoughts and words. Forgive, heal, and move forward with confidence and clarity, embracing both your divine feminine and masculine aspects.
